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The way our society is currently structured, it takes two full-time incomes to support a family, but the woman is still the one expected to be responsible for the majority of the housework and the childcare. So men get to come home, kick their shoes off, and relax in front of the TV, while the woman gets started on her second shift, making dinner, helping the kids with homework, and doing a load of laundry or two before she has to go to bed, get up, and do it all over again. Please explain to me why I would want to live like that.

(FYI, I am truly single, not dating or cohabiting because I'm smart enough to know that serial monogamy entails more emotional and physical risk than it's worth.)

Meanwhile the older guys I know who are divorced (say 45+) tend to be on neutral-to-good terms with their ex's and try to support their obligations with their children. Where the screwing over of the guys tends to happen in most of these cases happens when the state comes in on stuff like child support. Every one of my friends and acquaintences over 45 that are divorced have told me to not put myself in a position to be at the mercy of the child support agencies. I know quite a few who paid more than what they were supposed to according to the court order to support their kids, then the state comes in, says 'we're doing payroll deduction to ensure everyone gets their court-ordered pay', then everything goes to pot. Usually stuff like dual-withdrawing monthly payments, or failing to withdraw then gigging for non-payment when they don't do the auto-withdraw they have control over and forced in the first place. A lot of the payments to the ex-wives also tend to stop arriving, even though the cash is being taken out of the guy's account after the state board steps in too, which leads to everyone thinking everyone else is aligned against them.

I know one guy whose drug into court by the state about ever 3 years to pay back child support for the last 5 years his child was eligible that the state never paid (his kid's in his 30's now…). Every time he has to waste time going in, showing them that they took out the money. His ex always comes in on his side and shows the state never gave her the payments, and shows that he then directly paid her more than he legally owed. Case is then 'perminently' sealed because he proved he paid on his own, he's never refunded by the state for the money they took and never paid out, and some government idiot always seems to find his child support file a few years later and file a suit on his son's behalf because the file says he's something like $18,000 in areers. I saw this process happen twice in the 5 1/2 years I worked with him and he'd just gotten another summons about a week after I quit (I'd forgotten some stuff in my locker and ran into him then).

But as a woman, just know that some of us are not that heartless. There is so much selfishness wrapped up in the actions of these women that I'm disgusted to know we're of the same sex. The idea of me ever pulling something like that on my future husband (with whom I'll probably have had children with, no less) makes me ill. The one thing I want out of my life more than anything else is a family. I would consider my life a complete and utter waste if I didn't have one of my own. Why would I throw that all away?

Again, not all of us are soul-sucking monsters.

And I notice you said your daughters are in college; we'd be around the same age then. College girls just want to party, you say? Sure, there are a lot that do. But guess what? I hate partying. Absolutely abhor it. Nothing more than a grand opportunity to make a bloody fool out of yourself. There are still college-aged gals who are not that lacking in self-respect.
But one day they'll wake up—most do once they've been humiliated one too many times.