Lonewolf Diaries: Virginity’s for Suckers. Get Your Sex On, Kids!
by Steven CrowderIs there anything more abnormal than being a mid-teen virgin in the year 2009? Not if you’d hear Hollywood tell it. After watching a slew of teen-movies this weekend, I feel quite pathetic. It seems that all this time, I’ve been trying to follow my convictions and make a difference in this world, when I really should have been spending my time scoring with chicks. Has anybody else out there come to this realization as of late?
In the same breath, ladies; You simply haven’t been empowering yourselves as young women unless you’ve been riding the old bone rollercoaster. Purity is for losers, don’t you know…
From TV shows aimed squarely at young dames such as “Gossip Girl” or “90210,” to hit teen films like “American Pie” or the recent “Adventureland,” the message in regards to sexuality is quite clear; If you’re still a virgin at 16, there must be something wrong with you. Sure, it would be bad enough that all of these programs are laden with super-model-turned actors having sex like banshees (the parents are never around, mind you), but Hollywood doesn’t stop there. No, the good old folks in Tinseltown feel the need to twist the knife and go out of its way to point out the abnormality of abstinence.
The truth is that even in the most liberal of statistics, over 40% of kids remain virgins through their teen years. Keep in mind that a good percentage of those poll’d in these “blind studies” are men and let’s be honest… A good 30% of them are probably lying, so you can bet that the real statistics would favor the lonely little virgins even more.
If you were an alien dropped on to planet Earth however, forced to deduce the sexuality of the human species solely from what Hollywood pumps out, you’d probably think that nobody made it past 16 without having schtupped a myriad of partners.
One would have to wonder how much different that statistic would be if Hollywood WEREN’T pressuring teenagers to engage in the horizontal mambo. If Hollywood put all of its “virginity is for suckers” energy into promoting “saving sex till marriage,” I bet we’d see a very different, much more lopsided statistic. Of course Hollywood could never do that, as they don’t believe in “forcing ones beliefs on others”… Unless of course said beliefs include situational ethics, then it’s time to preach it father, preach it!
Women, correct me if I’m wrong, but there doesn’t even seem to be that “dime store floozy” stigma attached to being the “town pump” anymore. Girls who choose to save themselves are often portrayed as the “ugly-pretty shy girl” who only comes into womanhood once she gives it away. Do you feel more femininely empowered now that sex is expected of you at an early age?
So just to get things straight… Upholding traditional values when it comes to sex and marriage = judgemental and unrealistic. Making fun of the quirky abnormality that is a young-teen virgin = that’s just good TV.
With the soaring STD/STI rates, one would have to wonder if going back to the “unrealistic views of teenage sex” might not be so bad after all. The painful truth is that in its attempt to remain “morally neutral,” Hollywood is causing us to raise a nation of cads and harlots… Thanks again Sean Penn!
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Zac Efron promoting teen abstinence in "17 Again" seemed to me to be a positive moment. It did pretty well.
Post Moderen Culture promotes sex as the end all, be all of life. Trust me, it isn't.
Sadly, I think this boat sailed years ago.
Good points though.
Freakin' brilliant, Steven. And case-in-point…look how the Left villifies Carrie Prejean for her moral convictions.
Now Jason Voorhees has been preaching abstinance for a long time. Send all horny teens to Crystal Lake for the weekend.
Sex sells. its part of capitalism.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_wFEB4Oxlo
Was this the Boat – Darn!
The secular left has an agenda in promoting libertine lifestyles to the young. First of all, a seething hatred for religious or spiritual values, and the long term destruction of the nuclear family. You cannot have lockstep cradle to grave unquestioning socialism as long as loving families raise their own children to be humble, obedient, love others as themselves, and put God and Country over selfish pursuits.
Therefore, sex 'em up… get them having sex at 10 or eleven. Make them question their sexuality by promoting
perverse ideas such as transgender while they're in 4th grade. Interfere with the parent's responsibility by handing out prophylactics to 7th graders. Restrict or forbid home schooling.
Get the picture?
For the win.
Post of the day!!
Do they do much pointing out of the illegality of underage sex? The long prison sentences? The lifetime as a social leper on the sex crimes registry?
Didn't think so.
Yeah, but then he goes and poses with a topless/naked model in Interview Magazine? That really encourages abstinence!
Keep it up Steven. Raise the bar, your generation will follow.
This is the nexus of their agenda.
DC’s motto: The Govt Machine will assimilate all; resistance is futile.
This is why the big teen comedy script I've been dabbling with includes a character that is choosing to remain a virgin until marriage. Are all the characters like that? No, but it would also be unrealistic to conclude everyone wants to get busy. That's my issue with the teen comedies (I'm 26 myself) – that EVERYONE wants to have sex when, in real life, it's not quite like that. A little balance is always appreciated, especially when the character who's abstinent is just as cool and down to earth as the others, not some moralistic zealot.
I'm writing something now where the lead character (early 20s) has had sex once and regrets it. He eventually falls for a girl, they sleep together, but their relationship remains throughout the whole show (at least that's the plan). I imagine them getting married by show's end.
And I like American Pie. The good teen comedies manage to get the love message (or some message resembling "at least wait and do it with someone you care about") while the bad ones just go for the T&A and no message. As for Adventureland, I still haven't seen it but being sixteen and a virgin can seem like the end of the world sometimes.
I think there's a difference between portraying a virgin as a screwup/defective/whatever… and showing the angst that can go with the territory.
American Pie and Adventureland (and most of the classic teen comedies) have anything but supermodels in the cast. However, with 90210 and Gossip Girl, I agree. But I'm a guy so I'd rather claw my eyes out than watch one of those shows.
And I might as well say it… I'm a virgin, 26 years old. It's not for religious reasons, I'm just incredibly unlucky and bad with women. On the other hand, I'm in no rush and I'm kinda sorta passed the "Oh no! What'll people think?!" stage. I'll meet her when I meet her. Hopefully she'll be the one.
we are the Borg…
Sex, drugs, and Rock-n-Roll, hey everybody let’s all get laid! Wait a minute… perhaps that was really dumb?
You are so right. Were has our pride gone? I start blushing at some point practically every time I go to the movies or turn the television on. It really is horrible that the media begins attacking us at such a young age. I am extremely blessed to be brought up in a Christian home with morals, but many of my friends don't hold the same values as I do. All I have to say is, my parents would die of shame if I did some of the things they do all the time like it's no big deal. It really is sad that purity has become something of a joke. Thank you for posting this, and God bless.
Master Crowder: I hope you have about a dozen children, and all of them girls. Make sure you show them this naive infantile rant when they're about 11 or 12 so they understand your expectations for their behavior to "service" the neighborhood boys and be proud and feel empowered about it. Congratulations Grandpa!
Good luck with all of that.
"If Hollywood put all of its “virginity is for suckers” energy into promoting “saving sex till marriage,” I bet we’d see a very different, much more lopsided statistic. Of course Hollywood could never do that, as they don’t believe in “forcing ones beliefs on others”…"
Hmm. Actually, Hollywood used to do EXACTLY that. Let me think, when was that … oh, yes, that was called the Golden Age of Hollywood.
Nice to be old enough to remember when Hollywood did indeed force its belief on the public that saving yourself for marriage was the ideal. Yes, it did help to create a culture where there were strong marriages and strong family ties. Ah, well, we were all probably terribly oppressed and just didn't know it. Yeah, that's it…
If you have girls I'm sure you must be proud of raising a bunch of little sluts. I have three teen girls, all of them happy, all of them into saving themselves for marriage. If you give up to the degenerates, degenerates is what you will end up with.
Virginity is powerful. That's why they hate it.
I honestly have no qualms with anyone's sexuality within legal parameters. Whether you lose your virginity at 16, or remain a virgin until marriage, I really do not care and do think a stigma should be attached to anyone with sex.
That being said, one must present all the dangers and responsibilities that are synonymous with living a sexually active life during the teen years. If one's aware of all the dangers and still chooses to do it, there is not much you can do anyway. The vicarious peer pressure that Hollywood puts into the movies regarding sex is shameful, but it's still one's decision whether or not they feel they are ready to be sexually active and that can occur at any age.
Alex P. Keaton's friend Skippy (Marc Price) from Family Ties went on to a career as a stand-up comedian. In one routine, he looked my generation in the eye and said "because you guys had sex with everyone, I can't have sex with anyone." Teenagers need to learn self-control, but more importantly that sex is great, but it isn't the be-all end-all of your life. Many teens have this "sex all the time" thing thrown at them, and they believe it's normal. Abstinence is the best policy, but knowing that teenage hormones are not subject to pure reason, they need to understand that no condom is perfect, STD's are everywhere, and if you can't practice abstinence, try at least to get as close to it as possible. My parents said "if you can't be good, be careful." It is important that teens who choose not to become involved in sex before marriage not be marginalized. Fidelity to one other person in your life is a noble goal. It's a valid, and very traditionally legitimate option.
Many movies did promote the message but others certainly didn't (they didn't promote the exact opposite of course, they just didn't mention abstinence per se). And of course, they couldn't be explicit about it. I remember the Marx Brothers always seemed to be chasing tail, but that was it, and it was all for laughs. I believe Groucho says in Animal Crackers, "If you'll excuse me, I have to sow some wild oats" and he walks off with a bunch of young gals.
As for me, I wasn't raised to be abstinent (secular Jew) but I was also raised to not rush into anything either. I believe there is room for both messages. And I haven't rushed into anything yet.
I hope your syphilis clears up soon. The dementia is making you say really nasty things.
As a single female in her 20's it annoys me that people believe there's something wrong if you don't have sex by the age of 16 or even 18. NEWSFLASH: I hate to break it to some people but there is more to life than sex! I feel more empowered personally that I have held myself to a higher standard because it shows I'm in control both physically and emotionally which seems more powerful to me than giving into every whim and desire.
I think that liberals promote this mindset to continue to "enslave" people by the system so they can continue to benefit from it…all in the name of "free will"…the pattern:
Sex >> "Birth Control" >> Pregnancy >> Abortion
or
Sex >> "Birth Control" >> Pregnancy >> Birth >> Welfare
Both of those end with political outcomes that the liberals use to get votes so no wonder they're promoting sex. Who cares about what is safer and better? It only matters if it pads their pockets because that's how they keep their jobs. I believe that their liberal philosophy it is based on what "feels good" and if it "feels good" it must not be wrong. Don't misunderstand, sex isn't wrong in the proper context. (i.e. Marriage) But from my own personal research sex especially at such a young age rarely has any benefits and can lead to long term problems in the future. I'm thankful that my parents instilled in me values that will benefit me for years to come.
Apologies if this appears twice.
Well said, Lawhawk. As I mentioned above, not every teen is focused on sex all the time, but it doesn't hurt to be educated and careful.
Hormones transcend economics. Fortunately, so does objective morality.
Right on Steven! I love reading your blogs and seeing your videos. It gives me hope. I'm a 24 year old virgin….I know, I know, 40 ain't far off….don't remind me, my guys make fun of me enough. I taught middle school girls in my Sunday school class for almost 6 years. Some had eventually become promiscuous in their later high school years, but I always had this commitment not to be hypocritical with them. I felt strongly responsible to my God, my girls, and my fellow taxpayers. Pregnancy and STDs are not worth it regardless of how damaging that would be to my Christian witness.
Besides, I'm cute and I work construction, so believe me, I get hit on plenty. It is certainly not for lack of guys trying. God's got my husband out there somewhere, until then it's a sick game of hide and seek.
You reeeally don't believe that, do you???
<sarc>
Haha Prejean's moral convictions where she poses topless and lies about it? And she was not villified she was just shown to be a liar as she touted her morals.
How many vibrators do you own? Haha Hey webmaster dood, I know this will be censored. Hahaha
I agree with you Steven. Another thing my husband and I have noticed with the pre-teen shows right now is how the writers make the parent's characters so incredibly stupid and naive. Was pretty sure that is where my 9yr old son was picking up the 'tude, so we experimented and kept him off of Nickelodean for a couple of months. Did the trick. He doesn't even miss it anymore.
Interesting this comes from someone who used to be on PBS's Arthur. If there is one show that is responsible for the sex-crazed generation, it's that one. (The fact that my preschool daughters love it and watch it every week is totally irrelevant.)
This article sux! I wouldn't wanna nail u anyway, Crowder.
Stop being a little skank, sweetie. No more leather pants until you do your chores!
Screw daddy, take it off, sweetheart!
Here’s the type of metrosexual shytstain that passes for a liberal "male.” No wonder even liberal women want Conservative Men.
What post were you reading?
Glad you are not my father or the father of my children!
Hate to break it to you Steven, but waaaay back (in the 80's) we thought that if you didn't lose your virginity by 16, there was something wrong with you. I'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying it's not a new phenomenon, and it predates my adolescence by oh, a few thousand years, probably. The current libertine attitude has been fairly stable about the last 40 years. I don't see much substantially different now.
That's actually one of my pet peeves. It has nothing to do with sex or religion: I HATE shows that feature parents and teachers as oblivious idiots. I think that's why I never got into Saved by the Bell. "What? My son went on a joyride to Vegas? Why, my son would never do that! He's in his room studying right now!"
Okay, rant over.
You know what show did parents justice? Freaks and Geeks.
So how do you work away the knots in those muscles after doing a long day of carpentering?
Thank you, Steven!
And if you think it's difficult for teens/20-somethings in this culture, imagine how difficult it is for people ages 30+ who are still not married. You might as well tell people you're from another planet.
Maybe. Thanks, that was funny.
Well, underage abortion is legal and encouraged. In fact, if you are a 16 yr girl, it is easier to get an abortion than to find an aspirin in school.
Makes sense, right?
What is that old saying, Youth is wasted on the young!
Money is wasted on Hollywood.
You know that was a great article. I wholeheartedly agree with it. It's a shame how hollywood and the left promote promiscuity like it's a badge of honor. It's the wrong message. Your led to believe that sex is the only thing great in life. And that it must be experienced first chance you get, and then as much as you can afterwords. With as many people. Hence, disease and illness. But., as you mentioned in this great article, that the polls taken are not really that accurate, because boys are not going to admit there virginity to some stranger. So there is still a glimmer of hope. Before I end here, I must confess to something. Well, forget confession, It wasn't a sin.(technically) I lost my virginity at the ripe old age of 19. And you know what, I was glad for that. It made me appreciate the way I was raised. With good,strong morals. And ESPECIALLY, the respect for the opposite sex. The funny thing is how I came to lose my virginity. It served to educate me in how weak I was, and that I blatantly led myself to that fateful/wonderful day?? After all I was saving myself for marriage. Can you imagine that??? A !9 year old(boy) in 1984, saving himself. HA! Of course I had to lie through my teeth about it. But now I sit here and say I was pretty dam proud to last as long a s I did! So if there are any teenagers reading this article, or this post…Don't fret. Being a virgin IS cool. It shows your character and your ability to be a strong, moralistic, and righteous person. Sex is great, but waiting for the ideal moment, and the right person, will be worth it's weight in gold.
LOL! If you haven't had sex by the time you are 26, you will never have sex. BTW, when they say "abstinence" they usually are not referring to an adult who can't get laid.
I put a hippie in a headlock under each arm until they lose control of all bodily functions and I get a good stretch.
Commisar Roe: I hope you never have children, period.
It never enters your sick, twisted mind that someone might want to abstain from sex simply because they don't want to be a slut and sleep with anyone that comes along, eh?
Pathetic.
can anyone say…good job hollywood.
I'll keep my own counsel on that, Dan. But my kids believed I believed it, and knew I would enforce it. The girls' worst fear was having to introduce their current boyfriends to me, since they weren't allowed to go out with anybody I hadn't met, and they knew I had spies everywhere. I simply pointed out to the boys that we always needed new voices in the church choir, and it was up to them if they were going to sing bass or soprano. My son was a good young man, but also very smart, and I know he managed to get outside my spy network. They're all happily married and have children whose parentage is not in doubt.
By actually being funny, unlike yourself.
With our amazing appearing, disappearing and re-appearing posts, this will probably end up as a duplicate. But here goes anyway:
I'll keep my own counsel on that, Dan. But my kids believed I believed it, and knew I would enforce it. The girls' worst fear was having to introduce their current boyfriends to me, since they weren't allowed to go out with anybody I hadn't met, and they knew I had spies everywhere. I simply pointed out to the boys that we always needed new voices in the church choir, and it was up to them if they were going to sing bass or soprano. My son was a good young man, but also very smart, and I know he managed to get outside my spy network. They're all happily married and have children whose parentage is not in doubt.
If by "benefit" you mean you will go through life single and never experience real love, I guess your parents did a good job…and forget about kids, a woman's fertility begins decreasing in her late 20's. At least you won't be able to pass your family values on. I guess evolution does work!
You keep going young lady, don't give in until you feel it's time. And don't pay any attention to these jackasses and there posts.
Interesting. You know, when I was single, the lack of sleeping with dates got me several marriage proposals, while many of my friends giving it away but wanting the big commitment got nothing. I even had a boyfriend once, whom I did not sleep with, tell me he'd never marry a girl he met in a bar. NOBODY has as much sex as hollywood depicts, unless they're really messed up or are in some kind of business, and EVERYBODY lies about sex in some way or form.
Stop forcing your morality on us.
One would think that organizations like PETA and other left wing groups would support abstinence and other traditional American values. Think about it, these people tell us we need to be more aware of our actions. PETA tell us that we should refrain from eating meat. Eating as well as sex is natural, but as humans we can control these natural urges. We need to eat yes, but we can choose to get our protein from another source; in essence we move away from our animal behaviors into more civilized behavior. Animals eat without any regard, so to be civilized we should choose what we eat carefully. Animals fight for dominance, we being civilized discuss with words. Animals also engage in sex with very little regard as well, so I see abstinence as a move towards civility when we cast off what makes us animals. That's why I hate left wing groups like PETA or even environmentalist. They constantly tell us to cast off what makes us animals and be more civilized when it comes to meat, the environment, ect; but when it comes to sex they say we should embrace what makes us animals. And until these groups see their own philosophical double-standards I'll continue to ignore their message whether they have merit or not.
My parents say I have to report you the the Public Health Department because you gave me syphilis, gonorrhea, and genital herpes. Then you moved out of town. Please post your address so I can have them get hold of you. They will be the guys in the haz-mat suits.
If you haven't had the pie by the time you're 26, you will never have a sweet tooth again.
EXCELLENT!!!
Yay! Troll needs more pie to fuel his delusional arguments! Go eat a bullet, you antagonistic moron.
JB, she didn't "pose" topless. I know what topless posing looks like and she wasn't doing it. You're just upset that TMZ didn't remove those stars from the photos. The most exposing of those photos was definitely not a pose for the camera.
She explained all that and, having been in the business, everything she said about those shoots was perfectly plausible and very likely to be true as she said. Good on her…she won this battle!!
Hmm… Then I blame my parents (well their generation anyway) and shows like the ORIGINAL Degrassi High… :/ I remember at the age of 9 (and I am 27 mind you) being pressured about sex or seeing sexual images…. granted my dad was still stationed in Europe and all.. and even their commercials were (and probably still are) sexually charged…
Steven – as a teacher in a Christian school, let me encourage you: plenty of people in their twenties, thirties and – gasp! – higher haven't had sex.
And believe me, man, it's intentional. Incidentally, even hotties have convictions. (And a quick right hook.)
You only got 3 diseases from her? Lucky!
OH MY! I am SO unfortunate to never have had a male in my bed, especially one like you who feels that they're God's gift to women! Whatever shall I do?! Forget the notion of adopting from poor countries and giving them a chance at a great life–I NEED to have the fruit of my own womb in my arms to prove that I'm a female.
Go back to the cave you came from and go find a woman who will actually believe your bull crap.
Gee Gary. You just did an unlawful mind meld on the SciFi channel and then tried to pass it off as hearsay testimony. What other naughty things have you done? Enquiring minds want to know.
You rock. I was going to comment on this thread, but you took the words right out of my mouth (You do realize that's unsanitary, right?). LOL!
Now we know why you never provide pie. You are too busy having sex with it. We know who you are now, Mr. American Pie. So you are right, evolution works, and your bloodline is cut off unless nature allows mating between a cave dwelling cherry and a cherry pie to produce offspring.
I just heard Dennis Miller on O'Reilly say that when he was speaking at an event with George HW Bush, Bush told him to keep it clean, his wife was going to be there. The whole matter of decency in front of women is just gone, girls are laughing at nastiness, setting the tone that they are 'one of the guys.' Kinda feel that each time I watch Red Eye and hear the really off-color cracks by Schulzie.. shows little respect for the women on the show.. Girls have turned into something that I guarantee they'll not want their own daughters to be..
Thank you for bringing that up, I have none. Some people have problems with honesty. I am not one. There is a verse in the Bible: What you would do in secret, shout ye also from the rooftops. I know that whatever I do here, though none human may find out, my God in Heaven knows, so why hide? My conscience is clean, how's yours?
A couple of months ago I read an article about a study that showed that teenagers who watch TV and movies with sexually explicit themes and images are more likely to get pregnant or get their partner pregnant than those who don't. The article includes quotes like:
"Dr Chandra said that sexual content on TV had doubled in recent years, coinciding with teenage pregnancy rates edging up after decades of decline."
"Studies have found a link between watching television shows with sexual content and becoming sexually active earlier, and between sexually explicit music videos and an increased risk of sexually transmitted diseases."
"Among the 718 youths who reported being sexually active during the study, the likelihood of getting pregnant or getting someone else pregnant increased steadily with the amount of sexual content they watched, the researchers found."
The article is in the UK's Times Online: http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/world/us_an...
Man, Hollywood, it sucks for research and science go and trip you up like that.
Personally, Johnny Boy, I find shooting my 12 gauge and my .38 Special into something satisfying, like a propane tank or something living just to piss of a lib. Then on those really, really stressful days, I go curbstomping morons. Then I have to go wash off the unused brain cells, often times it's just too messy and somehow the morons reproduce too fast for me to keep up. Sorry I missed you.
Thanks Knuckles! I'll do my best! May God bless ya!
You know, most of her stuff is political trolling, but Auntie really shows what she's made of when she gets down to the level of HA HA, YOU'VE NEVER HAD A WOMAN.
Stay strong, I know it's difficult. God is with you, always, until the very end of the ages. (Matthew 28:20)
She was the lonely sort
Just a little too short
Her jokes were dumb and her favorite sport
Was hockey in the winter
He was duly impressed
And was quick to suggest
Any sport with a puck had to be about the best
As he jabbed his elbow in her
(Get it? You get it?)
…Honey, honey, hey baby, don't you want a man like me
–fz
Everytime my 4 teenagers try to explain why Latter-Day Saints live the Law of Chastity till they get married they just get dumb stares from kids their age.
I always explained it to the kids I taught in Jr. High like this:
Its like the Milkman pulling you over and giving you a speeding ticket…he can do it but he does not have the proper AUTHORITY !!!!!
You can have sex when you are 13…. but unless you are married, you don't have the AUTHORITY to have sex.
(And no I don't think it is OK to get married at age 13 !!)
Ahem….It always seemed to flow right over their heads as well…….
Probably inevitable. Modern culture tends to corrupt, and modern Hollywood culture corrupts absolutely.
Now I understand why I never liked Saved By The Bell: I never bought into the idea that adults are dumber than kids. That's why you don't have children teaching school.
If they'd gone the other way and shown that it was just Obfuscating Stupidity, I might have been convinced… Never trust grownups. They're always up to something, especially if they're Boomers.
It wasn't too long ago in times of plagues and famine that folks got married and started bearing children not long after they finished puberty. And school schedules were such that children could help with the harvest. So I don't know exactly how I feel about this post.
As Ron White puts it, there's a difference between a right and a capability.
Actually sex is legal between two consenting underage people. It only becomes illegal when one of them is a legal adult.
Nothing sexier than a woman with a shotgun in her hand…sweet!!!! Hey jonnyboy…I thinks it's time to get out of your mothers basement. It's starting to effect your brain.
So a woman isn't a woman unless she's married, pregnant and barefooted on the front porch? And I thought liberals believed in Women rights where a woman can choose to live their life as they see fit and not as a man sees fit. It's sad that you don't notice your own contradictory beliefs; perhaps the only fascist here is you.
Haha, Ain't you just being sweet yourself! Problem as I see it is, Johnny Boy is still a boy. Either that or some hostler roped him in and placed a couple of rubber bands so he wouldn't procreate. Thank you Hostler, whoever you are.
I'm glad she's still hanging around. We've needed a new smokin-hot-dumb-as-a-bag-of-hammers-chick-who-doesn't-realize-she's-being-laughed-AT ever since Paris Hilton ruined the fun by getting all self-aware and ironic about it…
Excellent post, Mr. Crowder. Here's my question to the trolls: Why does it bother you so much that some people have decided not to rush into having sex? What's it to you? It's not affecting you in any way. I'm sure you can find plenty of people who share your views and are willing to have sex with you, so why the nasty comments? If you disagree with the point of Mr. Crowder's post – fine, live your life the way you want to. But why are you personally offended by people that have higher standards than you?
Many of those marriages were arranged, and the betrothed were more knowledgeable about what marriage meant and that it was for life. Most teenagers in the postmodern world are too ignorant and immature for marriage. On the other hand, I know a lot of adults who are too ignorant and immature for marriage. If your point is that it's natural for teenagers to want to have sex, then you're right. However, (as stated in my last comment) studies have shown that minimizing their exposure to sexually explicit material reduces the likelihood that they will engage in sexual activity. Besides, the point of exercising self-control is to make the choice to do something you know is right when part of you really wants to do something else.
"You cannot have lockstep cradle to grave unquestioning socialism as long as loving families raise their own children to be humble, obedient, love others as themselves, and put God and Country over selfish pursuits."
This is a Capitalist country. "selfish pursuits" aren't just IN the blood of our system, they ARE the blood
I always love this theory because of just HOW much supposition and logical leaps have to be made for it to work. In order to carry out this kind of massive, all-encompassing socialist conspiracy. I mean, the basic theory at play here is that the WHOLE of the entertainment industry from the Hollywood studios aaaaaaaall the way down to online pornographers and all points in between are all providing sexually-explicit material as part of a long-term coordinated plan to weaken the nuclear family which is in-turn part of an even LONGER-term coordinated plan to institute socialism DESPITE the fact that socialism would mean the end of them as businesspeople…
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…It's a completely irrational prospect, particularly to the "adult" industry which one imagines would be the tip-of-the-spear in such a scheme. For pity's sake, people, think about it: "Sex workers" have literally been Capitalists longer than anyone else on the planet – they were selling "it" back when "it" was LITERALLY "IT"
Thus, for this conspiracy to work AT ALL requires either a massive organization at the head of it working all the parts to FORCE them to act opposite their own obvious interest OR a single insanely well-organized individual supervillian. In which case… who, exactly? The Soviets are gone, the Chinese NEED us to remain a free-market so they can keep using us as a bank. So… who? Who's SPECTRE here? Soros? The Bilderbergers? The Reptilians? Illuminati? Trilateral Comission? Elders of Zion? Legion of Doom? Guild of Calamitous Intent? C'mon, tell me: Who's the bad guy this week?
My Momma told me "Who's going to buy the cow if they can get the milk for free." That one really worked for me! I also had the chance to study sexuality and learn that during the 1940's girls discovered that so-called premarital sex usually did not lead to marriage after all, so they would NOT have sex and then marry that one! I just escaped the sexual revolution myself, and I learned a lot from watching those around me suffer. Now that we have been happily married for over 20 years, I wonder if the ones who were having sex at 20 are having sex now–so many are divorced or in "dry" marriages. Natural Family Planning, which forces us to wait while the woman (me!) is most interested, but allows us to have a honeymoon every month, has made our sex life indescribably great!
It is completely normal for a teenager to NOT be sexually active.
It is, however, NOT normal for a teenager to be somehow glad or even content about that fact. I knew plenty of people NOT getting laid in school, I was one of them. I look at the folks who promote it as a superhappyfuntime way to live like that movie about the people who had perfectly healthy legs but went about in wheelchairs because they'd "fetishized" paralysis.
Hmm… I agree that this culture of teen sexuality which stigmatizes virginity is wrong, but I don't think it has anything to do with Hollywood being liberal. The product supplies what consumers demand, and teens obviously prefer sex-focused pics over anything approaching restraint. I don't think movies promoting sexual morality would ever sell, especially among teens, and would subsequently be of little value. Same with violence; I am depressed that horror flicks — avatars of violent and sexual depravity — are such a lasting tradition of American of culture. It's not fair to punish the audience or the producers, though. Money goes where it goes.
I think it's an honorable thing that so many people wait until they're been joined in marriage before commencing with the coitus and fruitfully multiplying. It's the best way, no question about it. If I had a teenager, I'd certainly bang the drum slowly, repeatedly into their thick skulls. Now that we've covered about 3 percent of the population, let's address the rest of us, The Perverts Who Decided To Not Wait For True Love And A Government Document.
Sex is fun. We like it. We like it with different people. We don't need to be in love to have it. Beer really helps this dystopic view of sex, but it's not necessary. We don't see it as something that's ugly or distasteful, we see it as something that brings an equal portion of pride and shame – it's not ethically free, and it exacts a cost. Yet we still pursue it, because, yes, it brings happiness.We don't deify it – it's not a sacred rite, unicorns do not flutter and pixie dust is not spread when it happens. Conversely, chunks of human souls are not bled when it happens out of wedlock, and with every out-of-wedlock performance, an angel is not sodomized. Some decisions are better than others, but as adults, we're free to decide.
Finally, blaming Hollywood for teenage sexual activity is just silly. If youre teenager is taking their cue from what they see at the movies and on E! as appropriate adolescent behavior, the problem is probably a bit closer to home.
Not true. The age of consent varies by state. Many states the minimum age for consent is 16. Nearly all states have added so much to their legalese to their sex laws that an older-but-still-underage male can be found guilty as a sex offender for sex with his girlfriend.
Only as recently as 2007 have Indiana, Florida, Connecticut and Texas passed "Romeo and Juliet" laws. Lawmakers in these four states have recognized consensual sex between minors or an adult 18 years of age and a minor 14-16 years of age as intimacy and not the same as molestation. Underage sex is still illegal, but now some descretion can be applied by authorities.
An example of this is the case of a Florida man who, at 17, began having consensual sex with his 15-year-old girlfriend; when he turned 18, the girl’s disapproving mother pressed charges and he plead no contest. He was then legally compelled to register as a sex offender. He was finally able to remove his name at the age of 28 when Florida passed this law.
http://womensissues.about.com/od/datingandsex/a/R...
In some states, yes. But in others there are complex restrictions regarding age differences and state definitions of "legal age". Recently a woman in New England has been fighting to get off the sex register due to a conviction some 20 years ago where the sex act occurred on her 17th birthday and the boy was 3 days under 16.
And of course Steven's point is still valid. Encouraging or condoning underage sex is bound to lead to cases where a difference in age of a day or two could lead to 20 year prison sentences occurring simply due to a corroded understanding of sexual responsibilities and appropriate behavior.
Actually, since people have been convicted for simply reading text stories about underage sex, I wonder why any sex education promoting anything but complete abstinence is not considered encouraging child pornography or pandering? Food for thought, anyway.
Personally, I think any attempt short of genetic engineering to prevent sex between adolescents is futile. Evolution will win.
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