Lonewolf Diaries: If You Think Men and Women Are Different You’re Sexist?

Wow. The level of stupid on display here is truly amazing.

If you want to be a man among men, you need to lift Russian Kettlebells. The pink dumbbell set gets terrified when you hall them out.

Heh.

I won’t speak for the men, but I’ll certainly agree with his assessment of modern femininity: it is now apparently “in” to be a slut. Middle school girls call each other “ho” as a term of endearment. The joke is on women if they think putting out is empowering. I’m glad to be old.

Steven, buddy, relax man. The stuff going on w/men younger than myself (51) is just a fad. Much the same as disco was when I was in my 20’s. Remember, disco began in the gay clubs in NYC. Before disco took off, going out on the weekend, at least w/my buddies, meant, clean shirt, slacks (not jeans) maybe a sport jacket. Lifting was purpose oriented, football, wrestling, body builder types. Disco comes in and all of a sudden there was a “uniform”. Suits (no tie), polyester shirts, platform shoes, hair stylists. That Saturday Night Fever streotype was dead on, and no joke. But it passed man! Urban Cowboy came out and faster than you could say “Travolta again?”, the uniform changed. As for the scene at your gym, let me mention something a gay friend of mine related. This guy, also 51, was one of my roomates during college. Came out much later. During a conversation a couple of years ago, he asked me how married life was treating me and I told him about the ups and downs, my love for fatherhood, my wife and daughters, etc. I asked him about his life and he told me how much he loved working out, and going dancing. He explained that for a large segment of the gay community a very popular thing to do is to get all pumped up and buff, head out to a gay club, strip off your shirt and dance the night away rubbing each other like a pitcher with a new baseball. So I would suggest that many of the men you preface with “metro” are more likely “homo”. If you like lifting, get yourself a Soloflex or some such home machine and work out in the privacy of your own home.

The topic at hand? The topic at hand is absurd and it is not to be discussed only mocked

Steve:

You were already headed for the rocks just by BEING in a “gym”.
Complaining about psuedo-Barbies and metrosexuals there is like complaining about dogs soiling trees and fire hydrants.

Real men don’t “work out”. If they lift weights at all, they do it in their own garage. They aren’t ashamed if those weights consist of garduated food cans filled with concrete and connected by steel pipe. If they ever, ever go to a “gym”, it’s one like the kind seen in the middle of “Rocky III” and full of guys one step from the streets, who eat raw eggs and red meat. The only things they compare are scars. But mainly, men don’t need to lift weights recreationally, because they lift heavy things all day long, every day at work; and if not at work, then in their hobbies. Wrestling steers. Reeling in marlin. Moving transmissions. Whatever.

For future reference, if in doubt:
NO:
skateboards
scooters
kites
chihuahuas
tofu

YES:
tanks & armored personnel carriers
Harleys
F-18s
piranhas
steak

You can obviously add many more things to each list.
If unsure about anything, think of your manliest friends, and ask if you’d be embarassed if they found you in connection with the questionable item.
Then think of your most metrosexual acquaintances, and repeat the question.
If group A’s response would be “No” and Group B’s “Yes,” you’re on the right track.

If the opposite, flee with all haste.

And if your friends are the metrosexuals, and the manly types are mere acquaintances, seek professional help. The armed forces take recruits up to 39 now, so it’s never too late.

This is a little off-subject, but I think it’s related…What’s with the now cliche scene in movies where the 110 pound woman beats up five tough guys single-handedly. I’m all for strong roles for women, but I think that kind of imagery is disturbing. It used to be that men hitting women was very offensive and shocking. Now it seems to be in every movie…except the guy gets pummeled.

1950s. You’ve got two “official” sexes and there’s very little confusion about it. Women have babies, men are fathers.

1960s. Erlich’s “The Population Bomb” is published and a hysteria similar to the present one of AGW breaks out. Billions to die from pollution and famine. Now having babies is bad.

1970s. The culture reacts by presenting fashionable women as skinny sexless manikins or professional b*tches who not only are in competition with men, but act like them. With birth control and legalized abortion, they can emulate male casual sex behavior.

1980s. The “revolution” of the 60s has created “Women’s studies” departments which act as government funded revolutionary feminist and lesbian think tanks. The main aim is to attack men for the purpose of gaining power, mainly in terms of left wing politics, but with an emerging gay rights aspect. Both of these attack the traditional family and sex roles.

1990s to present: Gender feminism is now the dominant culture as presented by the media. The traditional male (and female) role models are vastly under represented.

Congrats wingnuts! your comments have gone above and beyond the stupid of the original post, a prospect I did not think possible

It’s terribly ironic that your impassioned defense of manhood amounts to two pages of whining. John Wayne wouldn’t have wasted time complaining. He’d be busy riding a horse. And scowling.

Steven, You said it.

Also: The California custom of men hugging is noxious. The handshake is the proper sign of respect among men. No, I’m not homophobic. I’m wussophobic. Big difference.

At the gym, my husband just this morning scorned the weights. He’d rather go play basketball, but I should also add he really doesn’t need to lift weights, as he’s got natural muscles that haven’t gone away, even with the years of a desk job and little-to-no exercise. I love his broad shoulders. My husband looks like a man through and through, but he’s always meticulously well groomed, probably much more so than I am. But in a manly way — trimmed hair, trimmed beard, trimmed moustache (when he has one) and well-moisturized skin, especially important for blacks.

I recognize the sight Steven is talking about, but I also have seen the other end of the spectrum — men who dress like “gangsters”, with their clothes hanging off their butts, over-the-top jewelry, garish colors, big labels. I hate that, too.

I’m afraid the population well-groomed, manly men is shrinking…

I’m with you brother!

I have lamented the loss of manliness and real gyms for some time. I have worked out most of the last 25 years in a great many gyms. In the vast majority of those, I was the only one making a spectacle of myself. I actually received a typed letter from the owner of one gym saying that he was going to have to cancel my membership unless I toned down my workouts as I was scaring the women. I had worked out at this gym for over two years at that point and he didn’t even have the decency to say it to my face! Mostly what was upsetting them was the fact that on leg day, I spent a good amount of time lying on the floor in agony. Good times…

You did leave out one description, however: the girls with the pants with words across their butts. Classy!

It happened around the time the male cinematic heartthrob templates changed from your Tom Sellecks to Brad Pitts.

This was around the time that the Linda Hamilton of Terminator / Beauty and the Beast changed into her Terminator 2 form.

Linda Hamilton can bench press three times as much as all of you pansies!

Only on the inside

I completely agree with your observations. I am troubled by the lack of “true men” out there; their historical vices (drinking, insensitivity and womanizing) are glorified in the media as inevitable and even desirable instead of the crippling elements they can be. The “pseudo-man” seems to feel his most masculine when running around in a uniform: some overly-embellished black tee shirt with odd icons and meaningless words, a pair of True Religion jeans (that the sales person at Nordstrom said was “absolutely hip right now”) and one of those blazers with, once again, that gross embellishment–it’s appalling. What dolt thought that the word “Affliction” would suggest any type of appealing connotation? I think of leprosy, the E. coli strain or some form of heinous and shameful ailment that will never go away. Men are embracing this style without the slightest care that it is not classy, unattractive and should have been over three years ago. There seems to be a complete suspension of judgement here!
Erstwhile, women, while having notably achieved a healthy sense of equality over the past 100 years, have chosen to trade it in for the freedom to be trashy. I am saddened by my gender quite often; beauty, taste and charm have been left by the wayside while overt trampiness and desperate attention-seeking strategies have resulted in women being totally comfortable passing off a much- too-small tee shirt as an entire dress. Not OK. Females now live in a society that condones shaking one’s “money-makers” as a savvy business move (if one can do this on reality TV, even better!) and magazines constantly feature women in various states of undress (objectification is certainly not a dirty word anymore). The desire to drink, smoke and sleep around like the guys has not garnered additional parity between the gender, rather, it has created a breed of woman who has lost her bloom before her time…one who will settle for a one night stand with a guy with a “bros before hos” bumper sticker (boys will be boys…), a full sleeve of tattoos (it was so nonconformist until nonconformist became incredibly conformist) and a remarkably edgy Ed Hardy trucker hat. Excellent.
What does this harsh analysis of the genders mean at the end of the day? I guess it suggests the sad and vicious cycle whose origin is virtually impossible to accurately determine: In a quest to attract men, women compromise their decorum, which makes them “popular” for all the wrong reasons (thereby completely subconsciously challenging their own sense of self worth and respect). Once self-respect is damaged, females are more apt to “settle” for any guy with a slight sense of “confidence” (there is nothing quite as touching as hearing a man proclaim how much he wants to make “love in this club”) and the dysfunctional pairing commences.
The truly good men lament that the classy women aren’t around, and they are right. However, the solution is alarmingly circular…if women would stop settling for less than acceptable men, then men would have to eventually get their act together, and if decent men were abundant, women wouldn’t feel the need to out-trash one another to secure a “relationship.” Both genders, as a whole, are doing each other a terrible disservice; until we acknowledge this as a society the problem will persist. To put it simply, the existence of good guys encourages the development of good girls which gives hope to good guys to keep on being good which reminds the girls that they don’t have to compromise…THAT is hope in which we can believe!

D-boy obviously likes being metro & that’s all fine & dandy but thank the Lord almighty I found a mans man. I used to be that girl until my husband (& then boyfriend) told me I was 2 beautiful 2 act like a tramp. I love him & girls if u want a man that respects u look @ ur self b4 u leave the house.

Steven must be going to a gay gym. I mean, hell, i go to a university gym and even that place has plenty of guys working out like animals, my swinish self included. As for his definition of a man, it is sadly narrow- and im an anti-feminist pig for God’s sake! And yes, the whole metro thing is indeed stupid and weak minded, but then so is declaring one’s love of “flying fisticuffs”. Regarding Linda Hamilton’s body in T2- she looked about as strong with training as most men are without training, so it’s not much of a brag, especially given that in the U.S hormone precursors like dhea can be bought over the counter.

Have you noticed the recent laundry detergent commercial (resists fading of colors!) with the woman in the blue dress? Perhaps two ounces of fabric total on her, one strong wind gust away from what should be total humiliation, proudly displaying she’s under two seconds away from being undressed enough for sex, and have you not thought something was wrong with that? Would you leave a plate full of homemade brownies uncovered in the break room and be assured no one would touch them until the meeting you had scheduled for later?

Women now have power, they successfully fought for their 2nd Amendment rights. And now feel they are empowered to walk around with a full-auto M16 slung over one shoulder while carrying a shotgun in their hands and no one should say a thing.

Relatively speaking, it is not Guantanamo that has angered Muslims so much, and not for decades before that. While they often believe the brownies should be kept in a sealed box in a locked safe, we publicly say they’re perfectly safe on that table. We don’t even keep them covered, let alone in the fridge. That can’t be right, it’s unbelievable, we can’t be believed. It goes against human nature, even animal nature; it is not natural, we must be un-natural, i.e. fake.

Metrosexuals come from this. It is now verboten in the workplace, and many others, to comment how delicious the brownies could be, let alone asking for a taste. But, it is still permissible to exchange recipes, it’s an acceptable way to strike up a relationship, and if she likes making brownies, well then, guess that means a guy’s best shot is chocolate baked snacks. Excuse me, but I’ll keep bringing in a platter of cheese and homemade ring bologna as well for those who like it, P.E.T.A.G.O.T.O.H.E.L.L.

And while we have all this respect and workplace rules, we freely distribute, for all the world to interpret as the Real America, TV shows where medical professionals, on the job while being paid, routinely have sex with wide acceptance of this being normal by coworkers. Not to fear though, the frequent sexual objectifying is perfectly fine and acceptable as well since both sexes do it, and besides the men often feel guilty and ashamed for indulging in being “too much male.”

Meanwhile while we decry the abysmal moral and legal systems thruout the world concerning child brides and even child prostitution, we continue the pedophilia-cation of America thru the media, where women are expected to be as hairless as a prepubescent, as Barbie is, with men becoming Ken dolls to join in, underage pop stars are expected to show skin and cleavage, while our young girls, thru media, marketing, and even their parents, are pressured into dressing as fashionable hookers, while for good measure we automatically accept they’ll have sex and start them early on contraception so they won’t have to rely on condoms, then tell them to rely on condoms for STD prevention, and as the infections rates go up we’re also demanding more government money for education and free supplies. However the kids have learned, as President Clinton also taught, that oral sex is not sex anyway so for that there’s nothing to worry about. The brownies proudly displayed at the bakery are not for sale, although they’re out in the open and expected to be sold, and shame on those other bakeries for selling things on display, how rude! BTW you may smell, taste, even chew, but you’re not eating until you swallow and digest. Please put the brownie back on the display plate when you’re done not eating.

Men are men, women are women. And hypocrisy is hypocrisy, even in America and no matter what the rules we don’t follow say.

Hey, Steven –
Your hair looks really great in that picture. What kind of product do you use?

Our young correspondent has much of it right, but misdiagnoses the malady. Overt maleness is directly tied to reproduction, females are natually suppose to want virility in their partners. Reproductive technology blocks fertility and thus nature is thwarted and the natural biological signals are crossed. So we enter the era of enhanced breasts, peni, chins etc. If sex is for entertainment only, be prepared for the next level of Sega Wii(-Haw). Homosexuality and promiscuious heterosexuality was predicted as the culture of contraception began in the 1920’s. The Pill was simply the fruition of the concept.

“Sex without offspring ultimately leads of race suicide”, paraphrasing Gandhi

check out the authors stand up act

http://www.stevencrowder.net/3.html

I could only stomach a few minutes of it, it seems to me that lone wolf is not just sexist but homophobic and racist as well and not the least bit funny. Watch the video and tell me I am wrong

Why is it that every time I hear the term “Metrosexual” it makes me think of a small early 90’s hatch back being dry humped by a girly-man.
[ugh... that makes my toes curl]

I bet that chick was interested in you…

I chalk up the modern loss of manliness to how we raise children nowadays; boys in particular. We try to raise kids in a politically correct way, where every behavior is good and every child is special. Boys don’t learn the skills to be men, nor are they allowed to behave like men. Instead they get medicated and placed in front of the TV/ video game console. We teach kids that they can be anything; yet we teach don’t teach them how to be anything but pop-culture drones.

“Women, how do you feel about the whole “bitches and ho’s” movement of recent years, along with the metro-sexualization of man?”

As a woman, it horrifies me to know that generations of women before me fought so hard to have equal rights and equal respect and now this generation wants to throw all of that away by behaving like a bunch of mindless tramps – proving the idea that women are only to be known for their bodies and not their minds.

I thank God for men like you. It’s true they are few and far between. This culture is hostile to men. No wonder they have no sense of self.

Stay strong. I can only hope my nieces marry someone like you someday. I’d propose to you myself, if you weren’t so much younger than me.

For an interesting comparison to the metrosexual trend here, you may want to check out the kkotnimen, or “Flower Men”, of South Korea. See here http://www.humanflowerproject.com/index.php/weblog/comments/koreas_lovely_kkotminam/ for details. While I don’t mind a man being interested in his appearance and looking good, it seems a bit extreme to me for men to make the same catty comparisons of other women’s appearance or be so into face cream they could work a cosmetics counter at Macy’s to show their sensitive side. The Korean men do look pretty good, however.

We real men are still out here. I don’t regularly work out, but I believe in being strong, and testing myself. Dig a trench in the middle of January in Ohio? Sure, I can do that. Fix things that break? Yeah, I can do that. Knock out a guy that cops a feel of a woman I’m with? You better believe it. Risk life and limb just to prove I can pull off some feat of strength or what not? yes, I do, I’m a man, and I believe I should push myself and never settle for society’s belief that I should just be a wuss.

Now, that being said, true strength, true manliness lies not in a person’s physique, but in their attitude and behavoir. My dad is my image of manliness. Strong enough to lift a car so EMTs could rescue a trapped victim but gentle enough to take care of me or my brother when we were sick (my mom was there too, but that’s not in regards to manliness). He can hunt, fix things, build things, he’s strong and skilled. But he also loves his family, stands up for what he believes in, and will risk everything for what he cares about. That is manliness.

Take heart Ladies and Gentlemen. My fifteen year old son is into three piece suits, fedoras, desires a 1960 model Caddilac for his first car, and thinks the forties were the hight of mens fashion. All is not lost. Did I mention he has a job?

I have nephews who are pushing 30 and they are WIMPS. They have no idea what real men are. They count on their wives to take care of them financially, sexually, run their homes for them while they too hold full time jobs, raise their kids AND expect their wives to buy them nice expensive things such as their PS3’s, I-Phones, XBoxes. They’re lazy, insecure, incredibly selfish and think their women’s lives should revolve around them. Their wives don’t have husbands, they have an extra child that demands to be catered to before the ‘real’ children. The crazy thing is their wives (or their baby’s mamas) put up with all their crap and feel guilty when the men rant and complain when things don’t go their way, I think they’re called ‘tantrums”? This is what the ‘feminist’ movement did to men. Well, they got what they wanted didn’t they? They WANT to spoil their men and yet they b**** & complain why their men can’t do more for them or why don’t their men step up and be the men they’re supposed to be. I’m a strong woman myself and I thank God my husband is a real man. He works his ass off to provide for his family who is ALWAYS his first priority. He loves his kids and gets on the ground and let them crawl all over him. He places thier needs above his and he treats me like a queen. He would kick anyone’s a** if they messed around with us. He is in my opinion, a man of steel and velvet. He’s so tough and strong, our rock and yet he’s so sensitive and loving towards us. That’s a real man and I hope that my 2 sons will look to him as an example and not turn out to be wussies like their older cousins. And I hope my daughter can also learn that a real man will treat her with dignity and respect and treasure her.

==Oh its heartbreaking what has happened to women these days. They look and act sooooooo trampy. ==

They choose to go trampy. They got the Right to choose, no?

At the same time, a man has the Right to choose how he sees her, pending how she displays herself for whatever reason. She can’t go trampy AND expect to be treated like a lady. The same applies to men.

Spot on as always my friend. BTW after reading I immediatly burned my Affliction shirts.

I feel your pain, sort of (I’m a girl). I am personally offended when people suggest that there is no difference between men and women. I mourn the loss of classy feminity. I DO NOT understand this feminist movement that allows us to be whores with supposedly no shame. I love the fact that men and women are different. It’s what I like about men, they’re different than me. Steven, there are women out there who hate this trend too! I am one of them. Glad to hear that there are men out there proud to be men, and who don’t like the objectification of women.

Great blog! Most blogs on this topic are not even close in detail as yours is. If you keep posting I’ll definatly be comming back.

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Anyways, I agree with this 100%. I’m still a youngster. Only 20, but as a girl, I myself still believe that woman should act like ladies. I really loved the way you put it! “Classy allure”. Woman can be beautiful, not by wearing less clothing. But by being feminine. Presenting yourself like the women of old and still maintaining a strong conscience and honorable mind. There’s a reason why the knight always wanted to rescue the princess.. Not thee uh.. Other gal, lol. Because that type of woman was what made a man want to go the extra mile. To be a real man, to prove and challenge himself. That’s why men go to the gym. They don’t go to relax, they go to see what they’re made of. To see how much they can take. Or they use to at least. So no Steven I don’t think you are clinging to some “age-old archetype.” But who knows.. Maybe you are and we’re both crazy =O. Guess we’re gonna be single for the rest of our lives. *gasp* The Horror! Hmm, dear oh dear, guess, I better learn how to knit.

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